In our society, most people have an idea that extroverts are confident, lively and cheerful, so they can adapt to society and achieve success easier. Many introverts work hard to be outgoing, even deny themselves. So do I. I always think that "I am an introverted person. Social interaction is too difficult for me.But several days ago, I read an essay whose main idea is personality and ability can not draw an equal sign.
People always think that an extrovert is good at people skills. But actually, these labels the extroverts have are not the characteristics they really have. If an interaction can master the social skills, he will also get long well with others. The introverted is a kind of personality. But the skill is a kind of ability. In this essay, the author also gives an example that an introverted person maybe doesn't talk too much with his friends. But it doesn't mean he can't deliver a good speech in front of a crowd. Quiet is a characteristic, but delivering a speech is a kind of ability. Sometimes the question is not whether you can change your character, but whether you can improve your skills.
It is hard to change our characters, but there are many ways to enhance our abilities. And sometimes the character is an excuse to escape reality and avoid make efforts. Every character has its advantages and disadvantages. What we should do is being frank to our characters, and then learn skills to cover the shortages.
